March 28, 2003
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I need your help. Remember a while ago I said I had to make a difficult phone call? Well, I never did it, I chickened out. But this past week has really forced me to open up my eyes.
It boils down to this...my dad is not capable of caring for my mom anymore. You see, he's an alcoholic. He admitted this to my brother and I, it must be over 10years ago now, and I had thought that was in the past. Recently my husband and I had noticed our liqour supply dwindling...we don't drink a heck of a lot. This week and the beach...it was quite obvious my dad was sneaking drinks. He was literally bombed or hung-over most of the vacation. It makes me sick. I don't want to be around my mom or my dad. I'm soo angry at him, it makes my heart hurt. I need to make this call...to a good friend of ours who could maybe point me in the right direction. But, do you, any of you...have any experience with alcoholism? I mean, I love my dad, but he can't take care of my mom or ever babysit for my children again. I can't trust him.
The worst part, is that I want to cry and yell and scream, but I can't. I just want to get this out, but I can't. My husband is awesome, but this is happening to my parents so it's a little different, you know? I'm soo lost, I feel like I'm totally alone in this. My perfect family is falling apart. My brother has turned his back on us, my mom is rapidly falling to dementia, and my dad is slowly killing himself. Not quite the Cleaver household I had thought we were growing up, huh?
Phew, I'm sorry for being soo heavy. I'll be checking in periodically this weekend to check email and to try to blog some more. You all take care and stay safe.
Comments (3)
Oh sweetie... looking forward to your reply to my mail.
One of the really tough bumps in life that we can never be prepared for. ~sigh~
btw, my dad was an alcoholic, but left before it came time to care for my mother.
I've had no experience with alcoholism in my family, but my only advice to you hear is to lean on your husband more. He may hate me for suggesting this, but I know if it were happening to the woman I love, I would want to be there for her in any capacity that she needed me. Remember when you were married, your family became his family and vice versa. Sorry I can't be of more help. Good luck.
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